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15 Reasons Why You Should Embrace Being Single

15 Reasons Why You Should Embrace Being Single


Let’s face it. Dating and relationships are tough. They can take a lot out of you. Some people may feel better being single, and there is nothing wrong with that. In fact, being single has a lot of benefits that are attractive to many people.

Before diving into a relationship, you should consider how much you can gain by being single, even for a short time. Sure, everyone wants to love, but no rule says you must rush into it. You should give yourself time to reap all the benefits of single life before you tie yourself down. Here are 15 reasons you should embrace the single life.

15 Reasons to Enjoy Being Single

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1. You can be selfish with your time.

When you’re developing a relationship with someone, you’ll have to dedicate a large chunk of your time to make the relationship work. That’s time that you could be using to do something significant. That’s time that you won’t ever get back.

Don’t ever let anyone make you feel that it’s wrong to be selfish with your time. After all, it’s your time. However, just keep in mind that a relationship will require your time. If you want your time to yourself, stay single.

2. You can make yourself a priority.

No one will put you first as you put yourself first. In a lot of cases, it can be challenging to put yourself first when you’re in a relationship. You may find the needs of the relationship supersede your own needs, and you’ll feel obligated to put yourself to the side.

While this isn’t always the case, if this happens, you can start to feel unfulfilled, which will ultimately lead to relationship problems. If you genuinely want to make yourself your priority, embracing single life can prevent you from having conflicting interests.

3. You’ll be able to date whomever you want.

Being monogamous may not be the right choice for you. If your upfront about your intentions with the other person, your dating life can be as varied as you want.

Dating isn’t necessarily a commitment, so being single allows you to date who you want when you want with no strings attached. Only you know, deep down inside, if you’re capable of or if you desire to be monogamous. If not, single life is probably your best bet.

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4. You can avoid relationship pressures.

Building a relationship takes a lot of work, and it can put a lot of pressure on you. With a relationship, you really must be in it to win it. Otherwise, the pressure may cause you to fold. You might end up breaking your partner’s heart.

If the idea of the pressures of a relationship makes you stop in your tracks, you should probably stay single until you’re ready. That’s the best way to make sure you don’t hurt a good person.

5. Saving money is easier.

Let’s face it – relationships are expensive! You have to worry about fancy dates, birthdays, anniversaries, trips, and more. For men, it can be even more costly since they typically foot the bill more often.

While a partner may not demand that you spend money on them, the relationship will be a bit one-sided if you don’t. If you have financial woes, or if you simply have a goal of saving money, you may want to stay single.

6. You can avoid drama in your life.

Relationships tend to introduce drama into your life, especially if you’re in a bad relationship. Misunderstandings, arguments, and fights can happen. The tension could even come from exes who can’t seem to let go. Even more, drama can come from insecurities and jealousy.

There is an unbelievable number of ways that drama can enter your life through relationships. If you want a sure-fire way to avoid relationship drama, flying solo is a good suggestion.

7. You’ll have the freedom to go wherever, whenever.

Some people are like birds and want to fly away whenever the wind feels right. There’s nothing wrong with that – unless you’re in a relationship. A relationship requires a commitment to a person, but many people don’t realize that it also requires a commitment to a location.

Except for relationships that start out long-distance, putting distance in a relationship can result in you ending up single anyway. You may as well stay single until you’re ready to settle down.

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8. You’ll have time to get your priorities in order.

Sometimes it can be hard to figure out precisely what you want out of life. This is especially true for young people. Figuring it out can require a lot of focus, and a relationship can get in the way of that focus. This doesn’t mean that you can’t get your life together while being in a relationship – people do it all the time. However, being single allows you to put all your focus on your priorities so you can achieve your goals faster.

9. You can focus on building friendships.

Having great friends is just as important as having a great relationship. In fact, research has shown that the quality of your friends directly impacts your satisfaction in life. So, what does this have to do with being single?

Well, many relationships can consume a lot of your time. Some partners won’t like you to hang with your friends a lot, and that can cause tension in the relationship. You should build solid friendships before hopping into a relationship. After all, even when relationships fail, friendships can last a lifetime.

10. You can learn to make yourself happy.

It’s hard to be happy in a relationship when you don’t know how to make yourself happy. Relying on your partner to make you happy all the time is a recipe for disaster. They should add to your happiness, not create it.

If you need to work on making yourself happy, you should do yourself a favor and practice flying solo for a while. Once you learn how to make yourself happy by yourself, you’ll be better prepared for a relationship.

11. Job promotions won’t cause conflict.

This tip is an extension of tip number seven. Many job promotions come with a need to relocate. If you’re in a relationship, this can put an extreme amount of strain on both of you. In many cases, it can be the end of the relationship.

If you’re single, you won’t feel any guilt about taking a job promotion and having to relocate. You only answer to yourself when you’re single, so you’re free to go wherever you want. Once you’re more settled in your job role, you’ll probably feel more comfortable pursuing a relationship. Until then, embrace the freedom of being single.

12. You can work on developing emotional maturity.

Sometimes you just aren’t emotionally mature enough for a relationship. That’s okay! Everyone deserves a chance to be young, wild, and free. However, these adjectives aren’t suitable for someone in a relationship, so if this describes you, do everyone a favor and stay single.

Get all your wild partying day over with. Learn how to connect with people and how to put others before you. In other words, grow up before you enter a serious relationship. Until you do, single life is the best life for you.

13. You can get better at being dependable.

A relationship requires a fair amount of dependability. You may have every intention of being a dependable person, but you need to have your “stuff” together before someone can depend on you. Being single will allow you to focus on becoming that dependable person that a partner will desire.

14. You can become a better partner.

There are several tips in the list that all go together to make you a better partner for someone. By embracing single the single life for a while, you can work on all the things we’ve mentioned above. Once you’ve gotten a good handle on something, you’ll be prepared for a loving, stable, lasting relationship. Use a single life to make mistakes and learn from them.

15. You just don’t want to settle down.

You may be a person that simply doesn’t see yourself settling down now or anytime soon (or anytime at all). There are plenty of people like that, so don’t think you’re odd for feeling this way. However, if you’re aware that you don’t want to settle down, stay single, so you don’t hurt anyone.

When dating, you should make it evident that you aren’t pursuing a relationship, so you don’t confuse people. You also don’t want to have someone clinging to you when you just want to be single.

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Choosing to remain single until you’re ready for something more is a very responsible thing to do. There are so many reasons that single life is attractive. The 15 reasons above are just the icing on the cake.

Enjoy all the perks of single life until you feel that desire to connect with someone on a personal level. Whether that happens sooner or later, you don’t want to have regrets about not living your single life to the fullest.

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20 Things To Never Say About Love To Single People

20 Things To Never Say About Love To Single People


Relationships, especially romantic relationships, are tricky business. Love is one of the most profound emotions that we can experience. Most of us seek to be loved and accepted by a person in a relationship in ways that bring out the best we have to offer. But others enjoy being single people!

For many people, romantic relationships are one of the most meaningful experiences a person can have in life; the need for human connection and to be wanted and needed seems innate. While we may go about achieving the establishment of this relationship in different ways, we desire a partner that understands, celebrates, and wants to grow with us through thick and thin.

Some psychologists theorize that the ability to forge healthy relationships starts in infancy when we come to an understanding of what it means to be connected to someone. We might not be able to articulate these feelings into words. Still, we form a perception about what being in a “healthy” relationship means to us, and we form an opinion as to whether or not we want to make an effort to create meaningful relationships in our lives.

Single people vs. happy couples

Do we have to be at odds with one another? Why can’t we all just get along and accept each other for our pathways in life? There seems to be a stigma in our society regarding single people—–, it is assumed that they are usually unhappy with relationships, somehow fundamentally flawed, or in between relationships.

We make similar judgments about “happy couples.” These dynamic duos have it all, they are forward-thinking, they have a harmonious home life, and they will be together forever.

The longer you live, however, and the more experience you have with all significant relationships in your life, the more you find that there is some serious gray area in between both of these extremes. Let’s not assume too much about each other, but for the intent and purpose of the rest of this article, we’ll be speaking specifically to those single people who don’t want to be told that they are “waiting,” “unhappy,” or “unfulfilled.”

If you are in a relationship, congratulations! We hope you are happy! If you are one of those couples who want to set up your single friends on the next Saturday date night, you might want to avoid these phrases when talking about what is to come as a result of your matchmaking efforts.

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Here are twenty things never to say about love to single people:

In case you’re on the receiving end of these questions, we’ve included some tips for you, too!

1. Why are you still single?

Newsflash! There’s nothing wrong with being alone. This question is probably one of the most offensive things that a single person can hear. In the middle of a backhanded compliment implying that you are fabulous, there’s a lurking, small question regarding what may be wrong with you. Refuse to answer that question and live your life!

2. Are you dating anyone?

Not everyone has to date to feel fulfilled. There are plenty of singles out there who are completely happy with the lives that they have created–sans dates. Regardless of where you are on the dating timeline, you can choose to divulge information or keep it to yourself. If you would like help finding someone special, ask for it. If not, steer clear of those friends and family members that will inevitably ask this question at the next social gathering you are at.

3. You will find plenty of fish in the sea!

Of course, there are plenty of fish in the sea! Not all fish are compatible with one another, however, and if you had your eye on a particular fish, you might be disappointed to find that the two of you cannot swim together anymore. It would honestly be more comforting to have them empathize with you on how the dissolution of valued relationships sucks. You don’t need to focus on more opportunities until you are ready.

4. I never liked “so and so” anyway.

Your breakup may have been ugly, you may never want to see them again, but that doesn’t mean that your coupled-off friends can start bashing single people and their dating practices. You legitimately cared about this person, and you need time to grieve without finding out that your loved ones were not in support of your relationship from the beginning.

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5. Surely you don’t want to end up alone!

And why not? What’s wrong with being alone? Single people lead lives that are just as fulfilling as those of their married and partnered counterparts. Instead, it all comes down to what you choose as right and appropriate for you and your life’s goals. If you want to rock the single catwalk, go for it! Make no apologies!

6. Don’t worry. Your time will come

Just what time is it that your married friends are talking about? There may not be the right time for you to meet that someone special, and that’s okay. You are not racing against society, a time clock, or Father Time, for that matter. If it happens, it happens. If not, be happy with what life has brought you, and look for opportunities to be grateful for the gifts that you have.

7. Why not spend time focusing on yourself instead?

Who says you are not already doing this? You can focus on yourself AND look for a relationship, or you can focus on the details of your life that will bring you happiness and fulfillment. It does not have to be in the form of a relationship. Create your best experience, and see what beautiful gifts of relationships unfold naturally.

8. Don’t you want to have children?

Having children is not for everyone. So whether you want to have them or not, there are steps that single people take to start a family without the addition of a relationship. Foster parenting and adoption are options for you if you want to experience what it’s like to raise a child, and if you have the opportunity to create children with someone special, it’s a bonus. This question is rather personal, and you have every right to politely decline to answer if the occasion calls for it.

9. I know what will be right for you

Oh my, there are plenty of people in your inner circle that think they know what’ll be right for you. Who knows what is best for you, though? That’s right…..YOU. Only you can do some soul searching and find what it is that you genuinely want regarding relationships, and only you can seek to make that happen. Single people make solid choices, too; allow yourself the freedom to express yourself for who you truly are.

10. What’s wrong with you, anyway?

While we might bristle at that question and push back even when we are jokingly asked this question, secretly, we might wonder ourselves if there is just something fundamentally unlovable about us. We all have those moments of neurosis; they will pass, and as you learn to ride the wave of life and appreciate what comes to you, you’ll be less and less affected by this ignorant question.

11. How’s the single people life?

You are not the ambassador for millions of single people around the planet. You can only speak for your experience of single life. Don’t be afraid to gently correct as you regale sizzling tales from your life, and bring the asker to the realization that no subgroup of people can be classified together as having a shared experience.

12. Deciding to get married is the best choice you’ll ever make!

Marriage is not for everyone. It takes time, commitment, and hard work. While it might be the bee’s knees for some people, it might not be for you. Realize that this opinionated statement is a perception based on something that someone else has experienced, and you have the right to create your unique pathway.

13. Don’t ever get married!

Again, this very opinionated statement is based on one other person’s bad experience with and perception of marriage. You should be allowed to formulate your own opinions without being barraged by those of others. While it’s unfortunate that this does take place in relationships, it does not have to be the ending of your story. You are the master of your tale.

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14. You must love yourself before someone else can love you.

It’s a massive assumption that you have low self-esteem. So how dare anyone else look at your unique situation and judge your opinion of yourself? Recognize the ignorance that comes with this statement, and take a look within to see if there are areas and things about yourself that you could accept more willingly. Regardless of relationship status, more work on the “self” translates to more happiness and peace. Isn’t that what we’re all after anyway?

15. I think it’s great that you’re happy all by yourself.

This sentence is one of those statements that you’re just not sure how to take. Is it a compliment? Is it borne of sympathy and pity? Couples do not have a monopoly on happiness, so if you are rocking life by yourself, keep on trucking!

16. I cannot imagine having to put myself out there again!

Great news! Dating people is not the same as sitting in line at the DMV. It can be an experience rich with adventure, excitement, and the potential for love. Sure, you might find a few rocks along the path, but move them aside and keep enjoying your walk. Have fun with the opportunity you have to meet others and learn more about yourself in the process.

17. Don’t worry. You’ll get lucky one day just like I did!

Marriage and Couplesville is not a slot machine–you don’t pull a lever and receive your potential partner at the bottom of a device. If you choose to date and meet someone seriously, it should be a thoughtful process of co-creating the future with someone.

Take matters into your own hands if you choose to, and with some thoughtful contemplation, determine what type of partner, relationship, and life you wish to have.

18. You just need to be more “presentable.”

What the heck does that mean? Should you get a gym membership? How about veneers? Do you need to get a makeover or start coloring your hair? If someone does not accept you for who you choose to be and how you choose to express yourself, they can keep on walking. This rule goes for your friends and family members too, by the way. Don’t let anyone talk to you like that.

19. What do you do on the weekends?

There are plenty of things to do in a single weekend; the sky’s the limit with how you choose to craft your time. The fact that people assume you are not doing anything because you “don’t have a special someone” is entirely erroneous. Fill your weekend with whatever you want to fill it with, and leave the speculation to those most opinionated couples around you who need a little education when it comes to a single perspective.

20. Why are you pushing love away?

Why is there a stigma that the only meaningful love that can be experienced in life is that which comes from a romantic partner? You have the love of family, friends, and others around you that make your life rich and meaningful. Refuse to feel bad about the experience that you have created, and look forward to loving as it comes your way, in whatever form it takes.

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Final Thoughts on Being Compassionate to Single People

Regardless of your thoughts, feelings, and perceptions of love, you have every right to create your life and relationships in a way that feels best to you. Realize that others are entitled to their opinions and that you don’t necessarily have to defend your actions and choices to anyone other than yourself. Have fun, enjoy the ride, and see where’d life…..and love…..take you!